The acne face

It never happens with the girl baby. But it happens to 40% of baby boys. It's the acne. It happens because of the residual maternal hormone inside the baby. It happens during the 2nd week after birth and might continue for a month or up to 6 months.

We were taking the baby for weekly check up because the baby had lost some weight when we left the hospital. When the doctor noticed the blemishes on the face, he told us that it's the acne and it would go away. Nothing much should be done to those blemishes.

But over the week days, we saw those things growing and spreading all over the face and into the head and on the forehead I could see pus formation. But we had no clue about acne and we thought that's how the behavior of acne is.

When we went back to the doctor for the next weekly visit, he got worried about the whole acne thing. It was not acne at all. It might be Seborrhea(Seborrheic Dermatitis) or otherwise know as Cradle Cap. Doctor also didn't rule out some type of bacterial infection.

He took some pus for culturing the bacteria to know more about it and immediately prescribed an anti-bacterial cream and hydrocortizine cream to put on the baby alternatively. If it's an bacterial infection than the anti-bacterial cream would take care of it and if it is Seborrhea, the hydrocortizine cream would take care of it. And he told us that in 2-3 days he would call us to tell us about the bacteria culture result.

On applying both the creams, the infection started going away. But it made his cheek skin rough. We could not put any lotion on the cheeks to make it soft. In three days every thing vanished and the skin got back its baby glow. We were very worried at the beginning about the marks staying back. But thankfully, it didn't. But we still didn't know whether it was because of the bacteria or Seborrhea.

Finally, the doctor called and told us that it was a bacterial infection and continue to apply the anti-bacterial cream; discontinue using the hydrocortizine cream.

Now we are still wondering what type of bacterial infection could have happened and how? We have no clue about it still now!

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Feeling left out

Though my daughter has been excited enough to have a new baby in the family, over the period of days she could see that everything revolves around the baby. The baby always gets the first preference. There are certain rules and regulations to follow around the baby: wash the hands before touching the baby; don't make noise when the baby is sleeping. If baby is crying for food, then everything is dropped and his feeding is taken care of. This is what happens when a baby is around. But for a 3 year old girl, taking all the attention away from her is not something she can digest easily.

Not that she feels any jealousy towards the baby, but she definitely feels that she is getting neglected and being left out. Looking into her eyes, I can tell that. I try explaining her why it is happening. But still it's not something she can understand now. Her behavior started changing. Even in the school, the teachers also noticed it and informed me.

That's when I took a decision that one of us have to spend time with the daughter while the other is attending the baby. We can switch roles every 2 hours or so, but the daughter should not be left out. If we didn't take care of it now, the feelings inside her would start growing and it might transform into something against the baby!

My daughter's reaction

My daughter is 3 years and 5 months old when the baby boy came into the world. She knew we were having a baby and she was involved in every step while the baby was growing inside my wife's tummy. We wanted our daughter to be excited and feel as if she is the most important person in this whole process. She was enjoying it very much and she was out spokes person to the world when it comes to the new baby. She told everybody that we were having a baby before ever we were ready to announce to the world about the new baby. Wherever we went, she was not keeping her mouth shut.

She enjoyed the sibling class we took her to learn the responsibility of being the big sister. She had watched The Big Sister episode of Dora umpteen number of times and may be that's what made her mentally ready. After coming back from the sibling class, she expressed her desire to take care of the baby by feeding and giving bath. Though we were excited, we kind of started getting anxious.

On the day when baby was born, my daughter was sound asleep in her room at our home. That morning I went back home and got her to hospital to see the baby. All through out the driving, she was elated and very much excited.

On entering the room, when I showed her the baby, she suddenly went silent and calm. She never saw such a little living being in her life. Her expressions were complex. Excited and yet calm. She smiled and I could see the big sister feeling coming up inside her. Whether she felt it's a good living toy, that's something I would know in later days!

She was impatient to leave the baby in the hospital and wanted to take the baby home at that instant. We had a hard time explaining her why the baby needed to be in the hospital. On the way back home at the end of visiting hour, she was sad and crying for not having the baby with her. But it was just the matter of another day before she could have the baby at home.

I was feeling pretty good that our daughter is very ready for the baby and we would have a smooth sailing when it comes to the sibling care. Was I right or was I wrong?

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April 19th: The Day

It was the day when he came into this world. It was 2 weeks early. But it was a pleasant and easy arrival. That afternoon my wife was complaining about the contraction. In case of the first baby, she never even felt the contraction. We went into the hospital at around 4PM and the hospital did confirm the contractions. However, they were not ready to admit her because she was not dilated enough and there might a long time before she could give birth to baby.

It’s kind of interesting that with every addition of new baby, the fear and the anxiety about the birth of the baby diminishes. Whether it diminishes linearly or exponentially that depends from person to person. We were not that anxious when the hospital told us that we should go back home and wait for the contractions to come in faster and more severe. I think the hospital didn’t keep us because we were only 15 minutes away from the hospital. But when the delivery time is nearer, that 15 minutes would feel like 15 hours!

We came back home and at around 11pm my wife could not bear the contractions anymore and we rushed back to the hospital. This time hospital admitted her and ran the epidural tube as fast as they could. My wife always opted for the epidural and her doctor always recommended it. The myth about epidural bringing bad back pain in the later stage of life has been already proven wrong. But still many women prefer to go through the pain of delivering the baby. May be it’s something they want to experience or they have high tolerance for the pain. But let me tell you one thing: pain or not, you would still love your baby equal.

After the administration of epidural, my wife went to sleep blissfully while the monitors around her kept on doing soft beeps and other noises to make you feel that you are in some futuristic world. I started reading a fiction and before I knew I was fast asleep in that sofa-bed. At around night 1:30AM I felt some commotion in the room and half-opened my eyes to see my wife’s doctor checking my wife’s condition. Not fearing anything, I went back to sleep. I remember in case of the first baby, I could hardly sleep. At around 3:30AM, lot of noise woke me up and I saw my wife already in the stage of pushing out the baby and there are all the required hospital staffs assisting her. Though I felt a little embarrassed, but still I woke up and went near my wife to hold her hand and give her moral and verbal support to push the baby out. My wife was not feeling any contractions because of the epidural and baby was ready to come out. With the help of the doctor and around 5-6 push, the little baby came out to this world around 3:45AM.

It was the most effortless and easy baby delivery I experienced. I mean the first one was easy too, but this one was easier than that.

I was feeling very different. Before the baby was born, I always told my wife that somehow I was not mentally ready on how to divide the love equally between my two kids. But strangely when the second one came into the light, I immediately felt that I didn’t have to divide the love in equal. Instead my love became twice to provide both the kid enough. Parenting is such a strange phenomenon. Holding the baby in my arms and next to my chest brought me such a beautiful feeling that I am completely assured about providing a lots of love to both the kids.

And at that point I realized my family has become a two kids family!

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